Making plans vs doing your plans

I think most people are good at making plans, especially this month, which is coming to an end. How far are you in those plans?

The best word for my month is focus-mode. I’ve figured out what to focus on, finding and asking the right questions and explored a lot. Next month will be semi-implement mode. I’m not a diver, heck I can’t even swim. I’m more of a “dip the toe-look for sharks-then jump” kinda guy. I won’t elaborate on what my plans are, but I wanted to bring up the process.

It might seem american dreamy, but YOU can actually become whatver you set your mind to. IF your body and actions follow. You can learn any skill, and for the most part reach whatever level you want. You can even train your brain to function quicker and better(lumosity.com). There are all these tools and opportunities around us. Opportunity is a chance not taken, a dream is a life yet to be lived, but turning opportunities into actions and in turn dreams into realities is my only way to live.

You might ask: What have I done then? Where is my success? Where is the fancy car, beautiful wife and big house? And it might seem stupid to you, but I think, therefore I am. I think big, therefore I am big. I think(and feel) happy, therefore I am happy. I think I will have these things at some point, therefore I will. I’m not sitting with my eyes closed in the kitchen, thinking and waiting for a Ferrari. THAT is stupid and impractical, unless it has a stove and dishwasher. I’m trying to say that it’s not live to work or work to live, it’s all LIFE. It’s not just the moments you’re at working and loving it, but not when you get back to your dysfunctional relationships. And vice versa.

We are not masters of time, but we are masters of moments. Every moment of every day we consciously or unconsciously choose our actions, thoughts and feelings. Develop good habits for dealing with the unimportant stuff like what to eat, wear so you don’t spend time(or series of moments) on thinking about it. Take a more active role in listening to people, and learn ways to more clearly speak your mind at work, at home and meeting of people. Think about what you want this year to be about.

Make plans–>do the actions–> be awesome and happy!

Late post, but hope you’ve had a great week so far and that it’ll get even better

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Happiness- My approach

As far as I’m concerned, age is not the amount of years you have lived, but how you have lived them. How eager you are to push your comfort level, how often you go do something you normally don’t dare and how open you are to other perceptions and ways of seeing the world. But the most important part in aging or maturing is developing a mentality around face difficulties. In the last Rocky movie it is said:(with paraphrasing) “Nothing is going to hit you harder than life. It’s about how hard you can get hit and still get up”

 

I started with the paragraph above, because as I see it, there are two types of happiness. It’s the one through a “childs eyes”. Things you see, touch, hear or smell that awaken a reaction and enchantment for whats going on.

 

And then there is the happiness from within and from experience. And it’s reached through facing adversities and learning from everything you do. Be active, searching for knowledge and understanding of people. Seek out as many enviroments as you can, to minimize your prejudices. Decrease your addiction to technology, if your phone dies, you actuelly don’t die as well. Talk to people in the world. This might seem weird at first and I get rejected regularly for my advances, but the more I do it the more positive results I get. Why do we need screens, when the most beatiful thing in the world is two eyes, sparkling with enthusiasm? Why is spotify always on, when people feelings, dreams and ambitions are just a conversation away?

By having to make a lot of choices and getting experiences from that, you know which paths bring positive results and which bring negative. Reject the negative and choose happiness. Happiness is a choice and you can choose it on a moment basis or you can change your life by choosing it every time you make a choice and internalizing it through every behaviour. And before you call me a hippie, I’m not saying quit your day job and sail around the world, meditating and live organically on a compound. I’m just saying, stop a second and ask yourself: do I need this in my life? Does this make my life better? If yes, go for it! If no, consider a new path. If you have people in your life that drag you down either by their negative direct or indirect comments about you, themselves, or other people, reduce the time you spend or eliminate if possible. 

Try this following list for the next week:

Enjoy every bite of food, appreciate every conversation and listen closely, find aspects of your job/studies that your unique talents are perfect for and emphasize effort here and above all smile! Think of a happy moment in your life and smile to everyone on your path. But most of all smile to yourself because you can feel that you are on the way to happiness. (Believe me, I have gotten some looks over this)

Lykke-min tilnærming

For min del så er alder ikke mengden år du har levd, men hvordan du har levd de årene. Hvor ivrig du er på å pushe komfortsonene dine, hvor ofte du blir med på det egentlig ikke tør, og hvor åpen du er for andre oppfatninger og måter å se verden på. Noe av det viktigste er å utvikle en mentalitet for å møte motgang. I den siste Rocky filmen så sies det: (med parafrasering) “ingenting slår deg hardere enn livet. Det handler om hvor hardt du kan bli slått og fortsatt reise deg”

Jeg startet med avsnittet over fordi sånn jeg ser det er det to former for lykke. Det er den som er gjennom “barns øyne”. Ting man ser, tar på, hører, lukter som skaper en reaksjon og begeistring for det som skjer. 

Den andre formen for lykke er en mer indre lykke. Og den oppnår man ved å gå gjennom motgang og lære av alt man gjør. Vær aktiv i å søke kunnskap og forståelse av mennesker. Oppsøk så mange miljøer som mulig for å minske fordommer. Gjør deg mindre avhengig av teknologi og snakk med folk ute i verden. Folk reagerer kanskje litt rart, men etterhvert som det blir mer naturlig for deg, reagerer ikke folk så rart lengre. Hva skal vi med skjermer når det vakreste som finnes er et par glitrende øyne som lytter? Hvorfor må spotify alltid rulle, når folks ambisjoner, drømmer og følelser er en samtale unna? 
Ved å ha gått gjennom mange valg og erfaringer så vet du hva som fører gode resultater med seg og hvilke som fører negative. Velg bort det negative og velg lykken. Hvis du har folk i livet ditt som konstant trekker deg ned og aldri forandrer seg, velg de bort, reduser tiden med dem. Nyt hver matbit, sett pris på samtalen, finn aspekter ved jobben som utnytter evner som er spesielle for deg og fremfor alt, smil. Smil til alle du går forbi, men mest av alt smil til deg selv fordi du kan kjenne lykken. (Tro meg, jeg har fått blikk)

Og til slutt et viktig punkt: selvbilde.
Slik jeg vurderer ordet.. Min oppfatning av meg selv, uavhengig av ytre meninger. Basert på hvor fornøyd jeg er med min hverdagslige livsførsel, hvordan jeg behandler andre mennesker, hvordan jeg lar andre mennesker behandle meg og min evne til å utvikle og forbedre meg selv.